"The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their
Maybe the Sunderland kids are unique, prodigies if you will
but even if they are, they are still kids.(Click
Here) if you do not recognize the name as this is the family where the
teenage girl almost died trying to follow her brother’s feat of sailing solo
around the world.I do not know anything
more than what I have read or seen on line and TV but I do know kids and
teenagers.I think goals are very
important for kids and adults alike but I would never allow my child to risk
their life trying to accomplish this one.
What was this all about?Was it a younger sibling trying to compete with her brother who reached
an incredibly lofty goal and the fame that comes with it?Is this a result of parental pressure or
worse, parents trying to live vicariously through their children to accomplish
things they were never able to or can’t do?Sadly, I see this behavior from parents too much these days especially in
youth sports as go to any youth baseball, football, lacrosse, basketball, you
name it game and watch how some of these parents act.I was umpiring a game this past weekend and I
actually saw a pitcher look to the stands at a parent who was saying something to
him just as he was delivering a pitch (which ended up being nowhere near the
plate – go figure).And do not even get
me started on All-star selection as this process is a Harvard case study
waiting to happen!
We all want our kids to be successful and or win, especially
when it comes to sports.But have you
ever stopped and thought what your kid wants?My sons are no different than most kids in competitive sports and always
want to win.This past Sunday, my 10
year old’s baseball team lost a playoff game after taking a 5 run lead into the
last inning.Many of the boys were in
tears (including mine) immediately after the game and I am sure some parents
were frustrated.No more than 15 minutes
later, I went to the nearby store to pick something up and there were both
teams, laughing and smiling, eating ice cream.Perspective at its finest.
Youth sports can be a great teaching experience for all kids
and I am not talking about learning to hit a ball or shoot a puck.Sports, when taught and coached the right way
and more importantly supported by parents in even a better way; will teach kids
about teamwork, adversity, sacrifice and commitment.Let’s think about this the next time we drop
our kids off or put them in a boat for is it about them or you?
Still remembering the
life of John Wooden and what a great man and coach he was; thus our opening
quote from him.