“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can
change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever does”
Bullying in all walks of life is a reality.It has gone on for ages in different forms
and these days it is going on in and out of schools more than most people
realize.Less than a year ago I wrote
about this as a young boy
took his life after been bullied by classmates and now last week, we
have another case, this time a young girl, who also was a victim at the hands
and words of gutless cowards.(Click
Here) for a piece from the Globe’s Kevin Cullen who gives some details
as well as the lack of follow-up on this tragedy.
I remember vividly what it was like growing up and the different
groups and cliques in school.Maybe I
was lucky because I always had a great group of friends and seemed to get along
with everybody.But bullying did occur
and one of my good friends was the victim of an older kid who teased and then
pushed him around one day trying to goad him into a fight.This older kid was a complete scumbag and if
he did not change his attitude as he got older, I have zero doubt that he is
either dead or living a miserable life causing much grief and anguish to
My friends and I never bullied anyone.We were no angels as we would talk about the
kids we thought were nerds but never would we do anything in front of them or
to them.There was not a lot of public
or even private bullying going on throughout middle and high school that I can
remember and I am certain that is a direct correlation to our parents who
raised us during this time.We were
taught in the home to respect others, especially our elders but also other
kids.We were also taught to fight our
own battles one on one if we had issues with another kid.
As we all would suspect, technology is a huge factor in
bullying these days as people can email, text and post things to try to humiliate
and intimidate others.In addition, we
are now glorifying those who act like assholes (pardon my French) or seek
attention as evidenced by shows like Jackass, Jersey Shore and even Survivor,
Wife Swap and The Bachelor.Combine this
with parents today who never had their time in the spotlight or what they felt
was a cool childhood of popularity by playing sports or hanging with the “in
crowd”, and you have adults not only trying to live through heir kids but
condoning and supporting their inappropriate behavior.It all comes down to the desperate need
everyone has for attention and acceptance.
Although the cause and solution of bullying mostly starts at
home; school administrators, police, teachers, coaches and especially other
parents must work together in a zero tolerance process.I try to do my part anywhere and everywhere
if I see any kid(s) picking on another whether on the field or at the mall.For
the sake of every child, I am asking you to get involved too and believe the
words of Margaret Mead from our opening quote.
What a crime the only thing that makes me sicker is the thought that these girls will get off scot-free.
One could devilishly hope that when they get to college and become the small fish in a big pond, that karma pays them back.
I am with you Pat. Bullying at all levels but especially with kids, infuriates me as those that do it are such gutless cowards. We need to create a zero tolerance everywhere and it will help prevent future tragedies. Thanks for the note.