(Editor’s Note – First, this entry is bit different than others and will contain adult content. B – every guy will relate but many may deny; women will also relate but many may ask “really?”. Thirdly – today’s title is also the opening quote from one of my favorite movies. Thus, I hope you enjoy but also find this very helpful).
With a disclaimer like the above, where am I going with this? Easy; back to Tiger Woods. There are so many angles we can take with Tiger’s circumstances which are a result of the Choice(s) he made/makes in his life. First and foremost, we must all remember that Tiger made a Choice(s) – to cheat, continue to cheat, cheat with more than one, tell his wife, lie to his wife, run from his wife (and hit hydrants and trees), not tell the world, etc. All Choices. Despite the blowhards and phonies that think Tiger should go public and owes the world some explanation because of his status, I 100% disagree. This is a personal matter between him and his family and any close friends (as I consider my close friends, my family too) he Chooses. If Tiger were an elected official, I would say he owes the public some explanations/answers but he is an entertainer, the world’s best and most famous golfer, but still an entertainer.
Now for the things we think but do not say which my wife will read and ask me why I needed to put it in writing (but she knows). Because I always feel it’s good to point out the pink elephants that people never want to talk about. Just about every guy I talk to that I know well or work with (as I talked to clients over the past few days who I do not know well but respect their opinion) and I have said very similar things. But if our wives were present, our conversations would not be as open or blunt. We find so many other women attractive and very attractive even up to “I would (fill in blank here) to spend one night with her” attractive. Sorry ladies, guys have been called dogs for a reason and just about all of us check out other women and that attraction aspect of the human DNA is normal. Note the word attraction – when it leads to obsession and stalking, then we are dealing with a pervert, psycho or wicked loser. But oh yea, this is also part of a women’s DNA as I dare any women to deny they don’t find Tom Brady or Jacoby Ellsbury (right honey?) attractive and let out a grunt now and then. But this is one of the main differences; women are much more discreet, less obvious and less aggressive about it. But again, it is all normal and does not make us sinners. And yes, just about all of us have been tempted in our lives.
How we Choose to act on this temptation is what this is all about and why the likes of Tiger Woods and millions of others over the years now have complicated lives, alienated family and friends or are living with dark secrets that are probably eating at them. Look at who Tiger Woods is. 33 years-old, great looking with a great body and charisma combined with being the world’s best golfer and closing in on a billion dollars of earnings. Women love him and want to be with him even if just for the status of being with someone that powerful or famous. Tiger is still a red-blooded man that has desires and despite having a beautiful wife and kids, he too has urges for other women. My wife is not a flirt, she is much shyer than me but I know she gets hit on and flirted with; that’s life and I trust that she won’t act on it. I too flirt with women mostly after they initiate but my friends have been out with me and heard my cheesy “how YOU doin?” which rarely gets a response and if it does, meaning my bluff was called, I either turn and run or say sorry and slump away. Like me, my wife trusts I will not act on it either.
Tiger chose to act on his temptations and everyone will have a theory why. Was it arrogance, did he believe he was invincible, is he a fraud, etc.? I have never met Tiger Woods so thus all I know of him is what the media created. I do not know any famous people but I ask my friend who works for a Boston sports team all the time about players I think or thought seemed like cool guys. Too often he tells me they are a-holes so it confirms that what we see and hear on TV, radio and web is often not the reality. Tiger is human and like all of us, is not perfect, he himself admitted that. Since the beginning of time, there has been temptation and it will never stop. Tiger gave in and broke the trust of his wife and time will tell if she can forgive him combined with the affects on his children. Being tempted is not what Tiger or anyone else did/does wrong. Giving in to that temptation is where you fail and will then lead to accountability – it is a Choice. If you think it is worth losing what you may have, the Choice is yours to cheat, steal, commit crimes, embezzle, etc. I wonder if Madoff, Clemens, Spitzer and Tiger would make the same Choices if they had a chance to do it all over again.
I may pick up here tomorrow but either way (Click Here) for the answer to our title and opening quote. I thought this was going to get racier but I’d give this a PG-13.
